Another fellow traveller discussing “their” polyamory. It’s refreshing to see so many different takes, and all of them equally valid.
- A Guide to Introverted Polys, Featuring Pie (modernpoly.com)
- The Silliest Things I’ve Ever Heard: Poly Misconceptions (pearlsandpentagrams.wordpress.com)
- ‘Polyamory’: the next civil rights movement? (lifesitenews.com)
Originally posted on Consider the Tea Cosy:
As with any fairly smallish group, when it comes to polyamory bizarre stereotypes abound. While I could (and probably will, with with BloggyWriMo/NaBloPoMo) expound on many of them, today I’m gonna stick with one: the idea that poly people are all massively extroverted social butterflies. I can see where this one came from. After all, the whole idea of polyamory is that you’re up for having more than one partner. It’s not a vast jump from “likes to have more partners than I do” to “likes spending a whole lot of time with lots of different people”. And while plenty poly people are like that, there’s also a lot of us for whom that isn’t true. So from one somewhat-introverted poly person to you lot, here’s why it works for me.
Smaller, closer groups
If there’s one thing that distinguishes extroverts from introverts, it’s our preference for spending our time with smaller groups of people who we’re close to. I’m like that. Lovely as they can be (and they really can!) I have only so many spoons for acquaintances. It’s the people who I know really, really well that I prefer to spend lots of time with.