A Little Bit About Me…

23 September = Celebrate Bisexuality Day

(Photo credit: dnnya17)

I got married the first time at age 20 and remained married until age 38.  I have been divorced for 5 years.  During my marriage, it was dissatisfying sexually.  I was a virgin when I married my first husband and was sexually naive.

After my divorce, I dated some men but eventually I experimented with a man and woman in a threesome for about 7 or 8 months. I had fantasized about being with a woman and having a threesome before.  This experience allowed me to explore my sexual fantasies safely.  I realized that I am a bi-sexual woman. Continue reading

Why are We Poly?

We are poly, not because we want to sleep around with every one, but because we want to make emotional connections.

Being married to a bisexual woman, I am comfortable with the idea that there are needs she has, that I can’t meet for her.  Some men would be threatened by this situation. Her first husband certainly was. Her sexual needs were closeted then, both figuratively and literally. But, that’s a story for her to tell, when the time is right. Continue reading

Have Some Pie and Ice Cream

Apple Pie a la Mode at Miller's Pub

Apple Pie a la Mode (Photo credit: Kim Scarborough)

One of the first stumbling blocks many would-be poly folk run into, is the desire to compare. In our case, the question that cropped up was “Is she better at oral, than me?” Cue the panic! As a man, with two women looking at you, with that question ringing in the air, a bit of panic is to be expected.
Fortunately an analogy sprang to mind.  “It’s not that either of you are better…  You can’t really compare apple pie and ice cream.  Both are wonderful by themselves, but neither is a replacement for the other. And of course, together, they go wonderfully!”
And so, smiling smugly, a man thinks he’s dodged that particular bullet… Until the disagreement begins, about who’s the ice cream, and who’s the apple pie.

So, we live, we learn, and we grow… Who’s ready for dessert?